The Lion & Lionesses Model: Love, Freedom, and the Family Life I Wish to Build

By Ronen Kolton Yehuda (MKR: Messiah King RKY)

1. Why I Am Speaking Openly

I am writing this article because I prefer honesty over hiding. There are things that many people feel in silence but do not say publicly because they are afraid of judgment, misunderstanding, or social pressure. I do not want to live behind a mask. I want to explain clearly what kind of relationship life I seek, what kind of family I hope to build, and why I speak about it openly.

This is not written to attack monogamy, and it is not written to tell other people how they should live. Many people are truly suited to one exclusive relationship, and I respect that. But over time I understood that this is not the life structure that truly fits me.

I want women, families, society, and the authorities to understand me correctly. I am not speaking about deception, exploitation, or illegality. I am speaking about a personal life vision: to live openly, honestly, lawfully, and with dignity, in a broader family structure than the standard one-couple model.

I am writing openly because I want it to be clearly understood that the life I seek is a life of parallel relationships with several women, built honestly, openly, and within a legitimate modern framework. This is how I choose to live, this is the family life I wish to build, and I believe it is part of my freedom to choose a lawful and truthful way of life that reflects who I am, with full respect for every woman involved and in a manner consistent with the norms of modern society.

2. I Am a Modern Person, and I Believe in Equality

I see myself as a person of modern society. I believe in human dignity, in freedom, and in equality between women and men. A woman is not property. A woman is not someone to be controlled. A woman is a full human being, with mind, will, dignity, and the right to choose her own life.

Because of that, any relationship model that I could ever support must stand on free choice, mutual respect, transparency, and consent. Nothing meaningful can be built through force, pressure, manipulation, lies, or humiliation. If a woman does not want such a life, that must be respected fully. If she does want such a life, then her choice should also be respected fully.

For me, this is not a rejection of modern values. It is an expression of them. Modern life should not mean that every person must live in only one approved pattern. It should also mean that adults may choose a lawful and honest way of life that fits their nature, as long as they respect one another and do not violate the law.

When I say that I want relationships with several women in parallel, I mean only within a framework of full consent, equality, dignity, and free choice for every woman involved.

I also see myself as a feminist, in the sense that I believe women deserve full equality, dignity, freedom, and the unquestioned right to choose their own lives. For me, feminism does not require denying that men and women may experience themselves differently, or that nature and human life include patterns of difference alongside equality. The image of the lion and the lionesses speaks to me in that symbolic sense: not as a denial of women’s freedom, but as an image of a family structure that feels natural to me as a man. This is not a claim about how everyone must live, but about the kind of life that I believe fits me personally.

3. Why the Exclusive Monogamous Model Does Not Fit Me

For many years I tried to live in monogamy. I took that path seriously. But as life went on, I came to understand something honest about myself: I do not see my future in a strictly exclusive one-partner model.

This is not because I reject commitment. It is not because I take relationships lightly. It is not because I want chaos. On the contrary, what I seek is not less commitment but a wider form of commitment. I do not dream of a shallow life with passing romances. I dream of a larger household, a larger family, and a broader emotional reality than monogamy can give me.

I know this will not fit everyone. I also know some people may disagree with me. But I believe a person should be truthful about the life he is actually built for. It is better to speak honestly than to pretend to fit a structure that does not truly reflect one’s nature.

4. The Lion & Lionesses Model

The image of the lion speaks to me deeply. It is not only a symbol of strength. It is also a symbol of nature, family, protection, and a certain household form. A lion lives with lionesses as part of a pride. It is not a hidden double life. It is an open structure. It is a family reality. That image has long felt meaningful to me.

When I use the phrase “The Lion & Lionesses Model,” I do not mean domination or the reduction of women into symbols. I mean a broader family vision: one man in real relationships with several women, openly and honestly, within a shared and stable household structure, with responsibility toward each relationship and toward the whole family.

This is the metaphor that best expresses how my own nature feels to me. It feels closer to a pride than to an isolated couple. It feels closer to a broad home than to a narrow private arrangement. I do not experience this as betrayal of love, but as a different form of family love.

5. Symbol, Tradition, and the Figures I Connect To

The lion also connects, for me, to deeper cultural and historical images: kingship, Davidic symbolism, and the memory of biblical households. In Jewish scripture and history, plural family structures did exist, including among major biblical figures such as Abraham, Jacob, and David. Later Jewish communal authorities, including Rabbenu Gershom in medieval Europe, placed important restrictions on polygamy, even though biblical and Talmudic law had permitted it. (Encyclopedia Britannica)

I do not mention this in order to claim that everything ancient should be copied today, and not to erase later moral developments. I mention it because many people speak as if the one-man-one-woman model has always been the only Jewish or human pattern. Historically, that is not true. Human societies, including Jewish history, have known more than one family form. (Encyclopedia Britannica)

For me, the lion is therefore both a personal symbol and a family symbol. It represents leadership, protection, continuity, household, and the building of a larger life.

6. The Family Life I Wish to Build

What I want is not casual parallel dating. What I want is a real home and a real family framework.

I wish for a life in which I am in genuine relationships with several women, where the relationships are known, serious, emotionally real, and part of one broad household vision. I imagine a shared life, shared space, shared care, and possibly children and family-building. I imagine not a hidden arrangement, but a visible one. Not a broken home multiplied, but one expanded home.

In my mind, this could mean a large house, or even a building, where life is shared in an organized and respectful way. It is a vision of a large family, not of secret affairs. It is a vision of continuity, mutual presence, and domestic reality.

This matters to me because one exclusive partnership cannot create the kind of broad family life I want. What I seek is not simply “more than one relationship.” I seek a household form that is larger than monogamy can offer. That is why I speak about several women, several relationships, and one wider family structure.

What I seek, more precisely, is not simply to “know” several women, but to build parallel relationships with several women as part of one broader life and family vision. I speak about real relationships, not hidden affairs: relationships with several women in parallel, grounded in honesty, emotional seriousness, shared life, and the hope of building a larger home together.

7. A Shared Household, Not a Hidden Double Life

One of the most important things for me to say is this: what I am describing is not cheating.

Cheating is built on lying. It is built on concealment, betrayal, broken trust, and split realities. That is not my ideal. My ideal is the opposite: openness, prior knowledge, directness, and responsibility.

I do not want one public relationship and another secret relationship hidden behind it. I do not want to tell one woman one story and another woman another story. I do not want to build a life on deception. I want the structure itself to be honest from the beginning.

That is why I speak openly. I want the women who may know me, and the people who may read me, to understand me as I am. I would rather be understood and accepted truthfully than liked under false assumptions.

8. The Ethical Foundation

This model has no value unless it is ethical.

That means full consent. Full transparency. Full respect. No coercion. No pressure. No humiliation. No emotional abuse. No treating one woman as more human and another as less human. No taking advantage of love in order to dominate.

Every woman must remain a full person with her own dignity, her own voice, her own freedom, and her own right to decide whether such a life suits her. If there is no equality in dignity, then the model becomes corrupted. If there is no honesty, then it becomes betrayal. If there is no responsibility, then it becomes selfishness.

So for me, the Lion & Lionesses Model only has legitimacy if it is built on modern ethical standards: equality, consent, honesty, mutual respect, and adult responsibility.

9. The Legitimate Legal and Civic Frame I Seek

I want to be very clear: I do not want to break the law, and I do not want to risk my freedom.

In Israel, formal bigamy or polygamous marriage is a criminal offense. At the same time, Israeli law does distinguish between formal marriage and other forms of adult partnership. Israeli recognition of common-law spouses exists in many contexts, but it is not identical to marriage and is examined carefully case by case rather than automatically. (Digital Library)

Because of that, I am not speaking here about illegal parallel marriage. I am speaking about the wish to live in a lawful, open, non-criminal family framework: relationships between consenting adults, built honestly, without fraudulent presentation, and without violating the marriage law.

I hope that the authorities, so long as no law is being broken, will respect the freedom of adults to structure their private lives in a dignified and peaceful way. I believe a democratic society should know how to leave room for lawful forms of life that are unusual, as long as they are based on consent, equality, and responsibility.

10. How People Already Live in Diverse Relationship Structures

Human beings already live in many kinds of family and relationship structures. Some live in marriage, some in common-law partnership, some in blended families, some in long-term non-marital households, and some in arrangements that do not fit one conventional form.

Globally, polygamy is not the dominant pattern, but it is also not imaginary or unknown. Pew Research Center reports that only about 2% of the global population lives in polygamous households, with much higher rates in some parts of sub-Saharan Africa and legal recognition in some Muslim-majority jurisdictions. In many other places it is rare, limited, or illegal. (Pew Research Center)

So I do not claim that the whole world lives like this. That would be inaccurate. But I do claim that humanity has never lived in only one relational model. Different societies, religions, and cultures have organized intimacy and family life in different ways. (Pew Research Center)

Although polygamy is not the dominant global family pattern, it is legally recognized, at least in some form, in a significant number of countries. Pew Research Center reports that polygamy is legal in about 58 countries, even though only about 2% of the global population lives in polygamous households. In human terms, that still means roughly hundreds of millions live in countries where such a framework is legally recognized, even if only a minority actually live that way. In some additional jurisdictions where formal polygamy remains illegal, the gap between law and practice has sometimes been notable, though the prohibition still formally exists. (Pew Research Center)

As for me, I am not seeking illegal polygamous marriage where the law forbids it. I do not want to violate the law or risk my freedom. What I seek is a lawful and legitimate framework in which I can live honestly, openly, and responsibly with several women, if such a life is built on mutual consent, dignity, and transparency. My aim is not to break the law, but to find a way to live truthfully within it.

11. Why I Want Society to Understand Me

I want women to understand me. I want society to understand me. I want families to understand me. I want the public and the authorities to understand that this is not a criminal fantasy and not a hidden agenda.

What I am saying is simple: this is the kind of life I truly wish to build. I want to live in truth, not in pretending. I want to be clear from the beginning about who I am and what kind of family structure I seek. I want those who may enter my life to know me honestly.

I also want the surrounding society not to rush immediately into mockery or suspicion. A person can live differently without being immoral. A family can be different without being dishonest. A life vision can be unusual without being unlawful.

12. Modern Freedom Means More Than One Life Pattern

In my view, modern freedom does not mean replacing old coercion with a new social uniformity. It does not mean that everyone must fit into one emotional script. True freedom means allowing adults to choose lawful lives that reflect their conscience, nature, and hopes.

If one woman and one man choose exclusive monogamy, that is their freedom. If adults choose a different lawful arrangement, based on equality and consent, that too should be part of freedom. Freedom is not only the right to resemble the majority. It is also the right to live honestly when one does not.

That is why I do not see my position as anti-modern. I see it as deeply modern: built on personal truth, equality, consent, lawfulness, and the dignity of adult choice.

My own hope is to live in parallel relationships with several women in a way that remains fully legitimate under modern law. I do not seek secrecy, illegality, or coercion. I seek a lawful and modern framework in which such relationships can exist openly, honestly, and with dignity for every woman involved. If one day the law were to allow a broader legal family structure, I would wish to marry the women with whom I build such a life, but as long as that is not the legal reality, I want to live this path in a modern and legitimate way.

13. My Personal Wish

My personal wish is not for disorder. It is not for a game. It is not for secret multiplication of relationships.

My wish is for a broad home, a large family, several women with whom I share real life, and a household built in openness and responsibility. I wish for stability, loyalty, presence, continuity, and a structure that feels true to me.

I know this path is not simple. I know many people may never agree with it. But I would rather speak honestly than live falsely. This is the life I wish for myself. This is the family model that feels natural to me. And I hope to live it in a way that is legitimate, peaceful, and respectful to everyone involved.

What I wish for myself is not a hidden double life, but a real and lawful life built through parallel relationships with several women. I want this to be understood clearly by the women themselves, by society, and by the authorities: my wish is to build a broad family life honestly and respectfully, while remaining within what is legitimate under modern law. And if the law should one day open the possibility for a fuller legal recognition of such a household, I would wish to formalize it through marriage as well.

14. Conclusion

I am writing this not to force anyone, but to explain myself.

I believe in women’s equality. I believe in law. I believe in honesty. I believe in modern freedom. I believe in responsibility. And I believe that, for me, the family life I seek is wider than monogamy.

The Lion & Lionesses Model is the name I give to that vision: not a life of secrecy, but a life of openness; not a life of coercion, but of consent; not a life of illegality, but of legitimacy; not a life of betrayal, but of a broader and more truthful household.

This is not everyone’s path. But it is the path that feels true to me.

In the end, my position is simple: I want to live truthfully in parallel relationships with several women, and I want to do so in a way that is legitimate, responsible, and lawful in modern society. I do not want to risk my freedom or live outside the law. If the law one day permits a wider form of recognized family life, I would wish to marry the women with whom I share that life; but until then, I seek the most honest, respectful, and legitimate modern framework possible.